The summer wedding season is coming to an end and once again we are taking the time to teach our couples some of the experiences that we see over and over again, the wedding day regrets from a wedding planner's perspective and how to avoid them.
Not paying your vendors in full ahead of wedding day
For our couples, their wedding day is the most magical day and they want to enjoy it to the fullest. For the wedding vendors, it is a beautiful experience but it is also work that needs to be paid. If the couple does not pay the vendor before the wedding, it could happen that the vendors has to come up either to the couple, or the parents to ask for money during the wedding day. This is an uncomofortable, and unromantic situation which ruins the vibe of that moment, and can be easily avoided. We recommend paying all vendors in advance, or if there is a contract which asks for the payment to be done on the day, please make sure to give the money to a responsible person (wedding coordinator, maid of honor, best man,...) and communicate to the vendor in advance that they will be paid by that person and at which point during the day.
Not deciding for a professional hair and makeup, or not testing the style before the wedding
Many brides consider at first to do some part of their wedding look by themselves, as they feel confident in their makeup or hair styling skills. However, as a wedding planner, I would really discourage this, for couple reasons. Usually, the brides will be very nervous, and putting on lashes with a shaky hand is quite hard. Secondly, the wedding party will want to join you during the getting ready, and you will not have enough calm time to do your look by yourself. If you have a professional doing your styling, you can still have a glass of champagne with your girls.
Another regret is not trying out the wished wedding style. This one might look attractive, especially for destination wedding brides, when there is the need to travel to actually meet the stylist and try out the style. But I would 100% recommend it, the trip can be combined with the catering food testing, and please make sure to try out all the styles that you are considering, hopefully knowing beforehand which dress you will be wearing.
Not planning the transport during the wedding day
This regret usually happens for the couples that are taking it easy and thinking that they will just call a cab or some of the bridesmaids will drive them and the wedding party to get to the ceremony. This can actually become a huge issue, if everyone has been drinking during the getting ready morning, or if there are no available taxis in the wine region where you are celebrating. Your whole day could get delayed and guests could become annoyed, it is just not worth the risk. At AjaWeddings, we as wedding planners, always plan out all the logistics of the wedding day and communicate them to all relevant people, to avoid such situations.
Not hiring a wedding planner or wedding day coordinator
Even if there is no budget to hire a full wedding planner, please make sure to hire a wedding day coordinator. We will be responsible to know all the details of the day, all the logistics, important contacts and timelines, to make sure to run the day exactly as planned. We hear of many bad experiences, where something didn't go as planned, and the vendors had to call the bride to ask for details or solutions, and she couldn't enjoy her day. Wedding coordinator is the main point of contact for all vendors, guests and the couples, and will resolve all problems and questions that come up during the day.
Not including any alone time into the timeline
Wedding day is all about the couple, but also all of your guests are there to celebrate with you and will be asking for your attention. What happens to many couples is that they don't really find the time to actually spend a couple moments alone on their wedding day, to indulge the moment of them finally being married and all their plans coming together. We recommend to include into your wedding timeline a couple minutes for your first look before the ceremony, or otherwise, if you don't want to see each other before the ceremony, then you can say private vows to one another right after the ceremony, in front of your photographer. This will give you the opportunity to show these beautiful emotions to one another, and have them captured as well, just for your own private gallery. Third option for alone time is during the sunset photoshoot, sneak out during dinner, catch the golden light and spend a couple moments alone before going for the photoshoot.
Not having photos with all your guests
You invited your most favorite people to celebrate your wedding day, make sure to have them in your photo memories as well. We recommend to take the time during the wedding dinner and make a visit to each guest table, together with your photographer and spend 1-2 minutes at each table, say hello to everyone and have it captured. Make sure to communicate to your photographer to firmly take you to the next table if an auntie starts stalling you, as you will not have enough time to visit all tables otherwise.
Late wedding party end time
Privately, I am definitely not the one to go first from the party, so I can understand that your first thought is that you want to stay partying until 5 AM in the morning on your wedding day. But actually many destination wedding venues have a limit of 1-2 AM for the wedding party, and this is not a bad thing. For the wedding couple and their family, usually the day already starts at 8 AM with hair and makeup, making it a very long day. With all the alcohol during the sunny day, and the tiredness, from our experience, we can say that 2 AM is more than enough for everyone to have an amazing wedding day and unforgettable party. But of course, if you insist on having a venue that offers all night party, the wedding planners at AjaWeddings will have enough other venue recommendations.
Prioritizing perfection over enjoyment
You planned your wedding for one year to the last details, and are expecting a perfect day. Wedding planners are there to make sure the plan and timeline is executed exactly as wished for, but sometimes accidents happen or nature interferes. Wedding coordinator will give everything in their power to correct it and make the best out of it, but it is on the couple to see the actual big picture of their wedding day, celebrating their love with their closest friends and family. Worrying about the mishaps and letting it ruin your mood will always be a wedding regret, as that day can never be repeated.
Let us know in the comments what was your wedding day regret.
Until next time,
Wedding Planner in Frankfurt, AjaWeddings
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